A person takes the last two packs of the toilet paper you prefer off the shelf and leaves you to have to get something else. The cashier spends a lot of time chatting with the customer ahead of you, wasting your time and making you late for your appointment. Someone makes a joke at your […]
Human beings are social creatures. Short of trying to avoid all interactions with people that are not of sheer utility, at some point we have to put on a less prickly demeanor and go and navigate the world, filled with other people who may be just as worried as us, if not more worried about […]
“It is not things that trouble people, but their opinions about things. … So whenever we are frustrated, or troubled, or pained, let us never hold anyone responsible except ourselves, meaning our own opinions. Uneducated people blame others when they are doing badly. Those whose education is underway blame themselves. But a fully educated person […]
I know for some that might read this, that the idea may seem ridiculous. If our thoughts aren’t us, then what the f*** are they? Well, there isn’t an easy answer for that. Yes, some of it is absolutely you, but a lot is just…noise. Scripts you picked up along the way, trying to fill […]
I frequently question whether or not I’m actually a good person. On social media, I tend to see a lot of very troubling conversations and ask myself, almost enraged; “Can’t these people see how needlessly aggressive they are? Can’t they just, you know, mind their own business?” I have a lot of unkind things I […]
For all the work I’ve done, all the things I think that I know, I have a narrative running in my head that the only authentic emotion that I’m allowed to feel is an overwhelming feeling of deep sadness, of worthlessness, of hopelessness. It feels too damn real to ignore, and everything else feels like […]
I have a history of becoming offended by things. The buzzword of the last few years is “triggered”, where something read online gives us that hit of negative emotion (anger, sadness, righteous indignance, and so on) and we feel compelled to blast that emotion outwards with the intent of making the other person “fix” it. […]
I made a comment in the previous post about failure. We all fail. For me, if I was to ruminate about my day and think about all the stupid things I did or said, and contrast those to how I wanted things to turn out, then I would be like “DAMN, ALL I DO IS […]
Being very introverted and an overthinking type, I’ve had the tendency to convince myself that things can be put off because I haven’t thought it through enough or haven’t determined the “perfect” course of action in order to actually do anything yet. So of course, I end up procrastinating, and end up f***ing hating myself […]
I get it. It’s hard to actually do things, because the probability of failure in something which you have very little experience is non-trivial. So we go ahead and read the blogs, listen to the podcasts. Lather. Rinse. Repeat. Suddenly, BAM, you find yourself triggered by something. Maybe an off-handed comment by a co-worker, or a […]