A Lens for Seeing Regret I’m human, and I’ve done more than my fair share of immature, indulgent, or toxic behaviours in my past, and if 10,000 hours of practicing something is what constitutes mastery; then I am a master of dwelling on my mistakes and berating myself for them. Perhaps over a decade of […]
I frequently question whether or not I’m actually a good person. On social media, I tend to see a lot of very troubling conversations and ask myself, almost enraged; “Can’t these people see how needlessly aggressive they are? Can’t they just, you know, mind their own business?” I have a lot of unkind things I […]
Part of my personal development is to just put my emotions aside and get things done, outside of my perfectionistic nature, which is very unproductive, being that I don’t start until I have an idea of what the perfect outcome is, and once I’ve started, not feeling complete until it has been done in the […]
As I turn 31, I started thinking about the growth I’ve done over the last year, and I wonder to myself: is there anything I learned that is worth sharing? I say that somewhat ironically, as I am writing in a blog that has the potential of having any quality of content imaginable. But, there […]
“Your alarm goes off. You hit snooze. 10 minutes goes by. Your alarm goes off again. You hit snooze. Again. One hour and several grunts, groans, and snooze smashes later, and you’re beating yourself for being lazy. You drag your ass out of bed. You look around to see your laundry is in a heap […]
Anyone who spends enough time with me is very familiar with my frequent existential crises. I spend a lot of time contemplating life, or rather, my own life, and whether or not it’s worth living. I think about a lot of mistakes I’ve made in my life and I frequently find myself in a mental […]
I have a history of becoming offended by things. The buzzword of the last few years is “triggered”, where something read online gives us that hit of negative emotion (anger, sadness, righteous indignance, and so on) and we feel compelled to blast that emotion outwards with the intent of making the other person “fix” it. […]
One of the most disempowering states of mind to live in is that of the victim. “Someone up there has it out for me.” “No matter what I do, something goes wrong.” “Everyone is an asshole and is trying to piss me off.” The last quote I mentioned is related to my previous posts, where […]
In the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, I’m an ISTJ. ISTJs are not inherently very emotionally adept (having our introverted feeling function [Fi] at the tertiary level), but I like to think that I’ve put a lot of energy into developing my emotional intelligence, and as such, probably have more EQ than most of those of my […]
I made a comment in the previous post about failure. We all fail. For me, if I was to ruminate about my day and think about all the stupid things I did or said, and contrast those to how I wanted things to turn out, then I would be like “DAMN, ALL I DO IS […]